Learn How to Squirt: Female Ejaculation for Beginners
A lady may have an orgasm without squirting or squirt without a climax. They do regularly coincide, however, not generally. Working under mixed up expectations can make it challenging to give your sweetheart a squirting encounter.
When you dip a finger inside, she should be extraordinarily wet – almost gooey feeling. Many women find a squirting orgasm to be the most intense orgasm she’s had in her life. So much so, it can leave women in a highly emotional place. Sometimes after squirting, it may get her crying and highly vulnerable to you.
Although a “visible orgasm” is a major part of the appeal, it’s important to know that squirting and climax are not the same thing. Often a squirt accompanies orgasm woman squirt, sometimes it doesn’t, but accomplished squirters say it feels fantastic regardless. Unfortunately, squirting isn’t always the easiest thing to do and it won’t always happen the first, or first few times you attempt it. Physical touch is ideal, but sensual connection doesn’t have to stop when distance starts. You can guide her through self-touch over a video call, using your voice to describe every sensation. It’s not just intimate—it’s a powerful way to keep the flame alive when you’re apart.
You can continue more minor stimulation, like rubbing the vulva and indirectly around the clitoris. While you don’t need to orgasm to squirt, you do need to be aroused. But what squirting cannot happen without is adequate hydration. Female pleasure and even moreso, squirting, are not common topics of research. Learn more about the health benefits of sexual intercourse here.
This warm-up technique builds blood flow and arousal, making her crave more. Keep an eye on her reactions; as you stimulate her, she’ll be begging for you to take it further. Watch the video tutorialAlright, this one’s super simple. Just relax your hand and cover (or cup) her whole vulva—no rushing. Let your hand rest there, taking deep breaths with her to slow things down and get you both in sync.
You may have seen it in porn, but is that something all women can do? Additionally, 33.3% of women with detrusor overactivity experience coital incontinence [3]. Other issues like cervico-urethral hypermobility, sphincter incompetence and urethral instability could also cause coital incontinence [21].
Sex and arousal can put extra pressure on your bladder and urethra. Combined with weak pelvic floor muscles, or an overactive bladder, this could lead to some leaks — which, again, are different from squirting. Per a 2013 study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, anywhere from 10% to 54% of women can experience squirting. The volume of fluid can vary widely—ranging from small, barely noticeable amounts to a full-on gush—so there is variability in how women define and report their experience in their sex lives.
The G-spot is a small area about one-third to halfway inside the vagina, located on the vagina’s anterior (front) wall, toward the belly button. The urethra is the tube that carries urine from your bladder to the opening when you pee. It runs right above the vagina and is surrounded by tissues and glands called the urethral sponge. There’s still a lot of debate about what the “squirt” itself actually is, but generally speaking, it’s a milky or clear bodily fluid that’s expelled from the vagina during orgasm. “There are two different camps on what experts believe is squirting,” says Wendasha Jenkins Hall, PhD, a sex educator and researcher based in Atlanta.
Size and shape aren’t just about what fits—they’re about what feels right. Smaller toys offer precise stimulation, while larger toys provide fuller sensations. Whether it’s her first toy or she’s a seasoned lover of toys, choose based on what she enjoys. I’ve tried these tips myself and even taught them live at retreats or online in our courses on squirting.